Another graduate from the Verbal Defense Abuse tutorial

YEA! for Patrizia C. from the United Kingdom, she just graduated and earned her certificate. In lesson three she wrote a great answer that we particularly like.

By giving to abusers everything they want and by allowing them to mean to as, actually we act in a  wrong why because we make them think that their behavior is right and they don't see the need to change and improve it.

You did a good job Patrizia. If the rest of you haven't taken the tutorial, think about it now. It makes a difference in how you look at abuse.

Respect Me Rules Workshop Introduction: "Introduction

Our FREE Web-based Tutorial will help you understand abusive issues in depth. On this page we present a brief introduction to the tutorial and some guidelines. The tutorial is divided into four sections designed to help build your understanding of the skills used by those who go from victim to victor. The tutorial is free but you must complete all four forms at the end of each section in order to earn your Verbal Abuse Defense Certificate."

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Verbal Abuse Is the Key to Weight Loss

So here is a guy in the UK that believes he can help people lose weight by being verbally abusive. Hmmm.



I don't know whether to thank him for honestly (which I believe works for breaking old patterns) or whether I want to throttle him for heaping on the coals.



At Respect Me Rules we defiantly tell the truth--you allow yourself to be verbally and emotionally abused and until you can accept this, you will continue to allow (and thus encourage) your own abuse. On the other hand, how many times did I hear how "flabby" I was? I could not wear short shorts because I was too old and wrinkly--and saggy--my abuser could not call me fat because I was thin--so he found another way to hurt--I was 'saggy" and "out of shape." So this guy ripping an fat people--well... I just don't know. Read about it here:

HyperVocal | Verbal Abuse Is the Key to Weight Loss, According to UK Hypnotherapist: "“But I won’t give them an inch – they have given themselves too many already. I won’t sweet-talk, because they’ve had enough sweets already. And I won’t have any of that ‘Oh, I’m big-boned’ rubbish. If they come out with excuses, I look them in the eye and say, ‘Stay fat then. Don’t waste my time’.”"

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73% of Saudi wives verbally abused, says study |

I sometimes am so grateful that I don't have to face a whole culture that treatment women as property! You think we have it bad, think what it is like in some other countries when it comes to accepting verbal and emotional abuse--this article made me cringe.

73% of Saudi wives verbally abused, says study | Arab News — Saudi Arabia News, Middle East News, Opinion, Economy and more.: "Al-Subai clarified in the study that raising the voice, silencing a spouse in public or verbally humiliating, cursing her or her parents and family, using sexually explicit profanities, degrading her physical appearance, or avoiding using her name when addressing her all constitute forms of verbal abuse."

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The Top 10 Signs of Abuse and another grduate

Below is an article on how to recognize verbal abuse. It is not always easy when you are smack in the middle of it--so its good to review the signs now and again--today is the day you review this.

For Rachel L--who just graduated from the tutorial in Verbal Abuse Defense--she is learning how to repsond (or not as the case may be) Congratulations Rachel..

How to Recognize Verbal Abuse - The Top 10 Signs of Abuse: "Verbal abuse, or mental abuse, is passed on like a life-threatening disease throughout the family.  We choose mates, places of employment and friends based upon family patterns of familiarity.  No one ever intends to become verbally abusive, but it happens more often than we care to admit."

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Starting off the new year with new graduate

What a great way to begin 2014! Kirby in CA just earned her certificate in Verbal abuse Defense.

For those of you on Section three (we have quite a few)--go ahead and finish the last section. Sometimes it seems as if it doesn't make sense to complete--but the lessons are designed to help change the way you think about "abuse." So finish up and we'll send your certificate too!

Amy said that her partner constantly used "Name calling, degradation, lying, public humiliation..." We do not have to live this way. So take back your power--let us show you how in our work books--this is the year of change.

My cousin gave me a dragon fly necklace for Christmas. Dragon flys symbolize transformation and change--yes, 2014 is the year of chance--let it change you!