Wednesday, July 26, 2006

komo news | Ads Ask Abusive Men To Get A 'Domestic Violence Checkup'

Finally, a program that makes sense and will actually help targets by really helping the out of control abuser!

komo news Ads Ask Abusive Men To Get A 'Domestic Violence Checkup': "Metro buses will soon feature ads asking men with abusive behaviors to call for a 'Men's Domestic Violence Checkup.'
The program is funded by a grant from the National Institute on Drug Abuse. It's a first of its kind program in which men can call anonymously and confidentially and talk to clinical workers from the U.W. School of Social Work. "

Monday, July 24, 2006

Emotional Abuse and Your Faith

Finally! Maybe pastors can get some real training to help famlies like they are suposed instead of giving us the "obedience" carp we have heard fo so long.

Emotional Abuse and Your Faith: "Recently I read about Nancy Nason-Clark was awarded $440,000 by Lilly Endowment Inc. (I was like WOW!) to develop a web-based model for training pastors to respond to domestic abuse. They can use this model in the privacy of their own home, or their church office. It gives guidelines, resources, etc for the church to follow in times of crisis when this happens within the church. The web-based training will have interactive capacities for questions and answers, offer video clips relevant to the content, and include special monthly features, such as guests-online, panel discussions between experts and ‘ask an expert’ section. To me that was VERY exciting! They have a pretty good response also, so maybe now pastors along with lay people can now make better educated responses to those families in trouble! "

Sunday, July 23, 2006

Exposing Online Predators & Cyberpaths

Don't keep their secrets. It's not your job to keep their secret. It's your responsibiliy to bring it out in the open so we can all deal with each other on an open and honest basis.

Wow, what a concept, honest and open!

Exposing Online Predators & Cyberpaths: "EXPOSE THEM!! ~ ~

Online Players, Internet Predators, Cyberpaths, Dating Site Frauds... whatever you call them - they need to be EXPOSED! Did they take your money? your heart? your soul? your trust? Tell your story... Share ideas for dealing with them... Share plans to change the internet laws to protect the innocent...HERE

Saturday, July 22, 2006

Md. Burning Victim Told Judge of Fears

When I lived in Virginia, I spoke before the state legislator to help enact a law that would force the police to take into account the woman's fear level in an abuse case. The story of Yvette is a perfect example why.

When my ex, Bob Bowman, was furious with me, he grabbed his 44 Magnum and slapped it into my hand saying, "Hide this." in a really scary voice. Did he want to shoot me, himself, the neighbors? I was so afraid I went to the police and asked to get rid of his guns--hide them for awhile. But the police said because he didn't say the words "I'm going to shoot someone," his actions and my reaction to his actions meant nothing legally.

We all know that the tone of voice and gestures mean as much or more then the actual words--and who better knows that tone of voice than the partner? You know what I mean by that tone that says "I'll rip your head off if you cross me."

The judge thought that the guy who "really loved his wife" was just trying to be a good husband--he discounted the woman who knew him--why?
Md. Burning Victim Told Judge of Fears: "Three weeks before Yvette Cade was doused with gasoline and set on fire, allegedly by her estranged husband, a Prince George's County judge dismissed the protective order Cade had against him, despite her objections that he was violent."

Yvette Cade Fund

Yvette Cade Fund: "Welcome to my site. Thank you for visiting. As you may have seen on Oprah (Wednesday, May 3, 2006), I have undergone a terrible tragedy. One that I did not expect, and never would have imagined. I encourage all women who are currently involved in abusive relationships to GET OUT NOW. If you have made a decision, as I did, to leave your abusive mate CONGRATULATIONS. You have done the right thing."

Thursday, July 20, 2006

Domestic Abuse and Sexual Assault related songs - Compiled by Gerri Gribi

Fantiasic site with a discussion about which songs make us believe that domestic violence and abuse can be "romantic". You wonder where women get these ideas and why they stay so long or how they don't recognize aubse? Look at these songs!

Domestic Abuse and Sexual Assault related songs - Compiled by Gerri Gribi: "I'm often asked to suggest songs related to domestic abuse or sexual assault, so I've compiled this annotated list of songs with accessible recorded versions and links to lyrics when I can find them online.

Inclusion on this list is not a personal endorsement. I simply provide a wide sampling of experiences and stories, for analysis and discussion of how these issues are reflected in popular culture...or in some cases how songs brainwash us into thinking violence is 'romantic.' Readers have suggested additional songs over the be the judge of whether a specific song speaks to your needs. If you would like to suggest a song you MUST PROVIDE: Song Title, Artist, Album Title, and a sentence describing the song."

Wednesday, July 19, 2006

Help At Hand For Male Domestic Abuse Victims (from Thisisdorset)

Help At Hand For Male Domestic Abuse Victims (from Thisisdorset): "A drop-in centre for men suffering from abuse from their families has been opened in Dorchester.

The national organisation ManKind has set up a helpline and the advice centre in the town with support from the West Dorset charity that helps women who are victims of domestic abuse.

Molly Rennie, chairman of the West Dorset Women's Refuge committee, said: 'We now have an amazing service for women and the next step is to support men.

'One in six men suffer from domestic violence along with one in four women people are often surprised it's that many for both."

Secrets protect the abuser

Recognizing what is going on is the first steop and its so hard becasue we shield the guy or gal who begins treating us badly--NO MORE SECRETS and then we can really start making progress.

The Gazette-Enterprise: "The symptoms of abuse include intimidation through the use of threats, power misuse and control.

Some of the most common forms of domestic abuse are mental and physical abuse, but domestic violence can occur through other avenues, including coercion or threats, the use of intimidation, by being forcibly isolated from friends and family and even by minimizing the victims access to the family income.

Recognizing the symptoms is the first step to finding a way out and getting the help needed to escape the cruelty of abuse."

Wednesday, July 12, 2006

Shock At Shop Abuse (from This Is Lancashire)

We don't want our partners abusing us verbally or emotionally and yet have any us taken out a bad day on a shopkeeper? When we demand to be respected and treated well, we must also give that same respect to others. In England, they are doing something about it.

Mps Shock At Shop Abuse (from This Is Lancashire): "MP’s shock at shop abuse
By Citizen reporter

Chorley MP Lindsay Hoyle is supporting shopworkers who have formed Usdaw United Against Abuse (UUAA) after a survey found 95 per cent of retail staff have been verbally abused by customers.

UUAA teams will hand out red cards across the UK, reminding shoppers that verbal abuse is a form of intimidation.

Mr Hoyle said: 'I'm shocked that one million shopworkers are verbally abused every day.'"

Sunday, July 9, 2006

Symptoms of Parnter and Domestic Abuse

You have to scroll down the page to reader comments to read the rest of this, but you want to watch out for this guy!

Symptoms of Parnter and Domestic Abuse: "From Anonymous in Orange County.

I met this guy from the above ad. He told me he was in trouble a lot growing up; did arson as a child and started having sex at 13. Why didn't I see these as warning signs? Symptoms of the classic sociopath that I didn't see in this guy until now:"

Monday, July 3, 2006

Research considers how Christian women cope with domestic abuse - UQ News Online - The University of Queensland

Research considers how Christian women cope with domestic abuse - UQ News Online - The University of Queensland: "She said while talking to women for her study, she heard tales of church leaders telling them to respect their husbands and forgive them for their abusive actions.

“Forgiveness doesn't mean reconciliation, and some of these women were forced to endure abuse for years because they were told leaving their husbands would be a greater sin,” Dr Baker said. "

JONES: There's no excuse for domestic abuse : The Morning Call Online

There is no excuse for domestic abuse--Tee-shirt?

JONES: There's no excuse for domestic abuse : The Morning Call Online: "'Brett Myers was not apologetic,'' said Pam Russell, executive director of Turning Point of Lehigh Valley, an organization dedicated to aiding the victims of domestic violence. ''He said, I'm sorry I got caught. He's not saying he's sorry he did it. It goes back to entitlement: She's my property. I'm not sorry I did it. I'm sorry anybody had to find out about it. What kind of message does that send to kids: It's OK, but don't get caught? No, it's just not OK.''"