Thursday, May 24, 2007

MyFox St. Louis | Text: FOX Files: Husband Abuse

It does work both ways--it is not always men abusing women--this is so sad.

MyFox St. Louis | Text: FOX Files: Husband Abuse:

A Fox files exclusive report sheds light on what really happened when a Belleville woman beat her live in ex-husband to death with a bat. This case of domestic violence sheds new light on women abusing men.

Joann Godt tortured Jay Godt. Police say she cut his genitals, pulled his teeth out and eventually beat him to death. Neighbors witnessed the verbal and physical attacks outside their mobile home in Belleville. If Jay didn't mow the lawn correctly, neighbors say she punched him in the head with her fist. Co-workers at the Belleville News Democrat noticed Jay looked bad. He was hospitalized about six weeks before he died. Police could tell he had been beaten then, but Jay blamed a neighbor."

Wednesday, May 23, 2007

SJ-R.COM - Senate approves bill to protect pets in domestic abuse cases


SJ-R.COM - Senate approves bill to protect pets in domestic abuse cases

House Bill 9, which passed the Senate on Tuesday, isn’t aimed only at curbing animal abuse, said Sen. William Haine, D-Alton, who sponsored the legislation in the Senate.

“Many of these acts are not only cruelty to animals, but they’re directed as part of an effort of domestic violence against someone who’s gone to court for an order of protection or seeking a divorce or whatever,” he said. “Frequently the pets are a target in order to direct stress and terror against the person who’s brought the petition.”

As Madison County state’s attorney for 14 years, Haine said, “we saw several situations where family pets were destroyed - killed - by people who were using them as a way to commit domestic violence against their boyfriend or girlfriend.”

The legislation allows a judge to order the person named in the order of protection to “stay away from the animal and forbid (him or her) from taking, transferring, encumbering, concealing, harming or otherwise disposing of the animal.”

It was supported by the American Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals, along with the Coalition Against Domestic Violence.

A news release the ASPCA issued after the vote said 71 percent of pet-owning women in domestic violence shelters reported that a family pet had been threatened, injured or killed by their abuser.

“Victims of domestic violence should never have to fear for their pets’ safety when making the decision to leave a violent situation,” Ed Sayres, president and CEO of the ASPCA, said in the statement.

When Is It Okay Under HIPAA to Report Domestic Violence?

I really dont bleive in secrets and I don't bleive in keeping the abusers secrets. the whole site trys to encourage peole to stop the secret keeping--but anturally there are exceptions and that has to be on a case by case basis--reach about what health care professionals face everyday with the secret keeping aspect of health care

When Is It Okay Under HIPAA to Report Domestic Violence?: "With or without a victim's request, protected health information (PHI) is not protected if a crime was involved, Stark found. 'Our attorney told us that if we feel that a patient is in danger, we have every right to report it [and] we could probably be held liable if we didn't.'

But there is a twist. Stark says caregivers want to be cautious and not jump to conclusions or make false accusations. 'You wouldn't want to do anything.that would prevent patients from seeking care because they might start to think that every time they come in, their privacy is going to be breached.'

Jon Burke, a consultant on privacy and security issues, agrees. He says a hospital should take advantage of all the options it has before contacting police. 'If a patient comes in with a variety of wound patterns that show an abuse context, it is a no-brainer: Make the call,' he tells RPP. But, he says, 'in a normal hospital, there is a psychiatrist on call or a social worker on call. Before you put someone in the system, you really need to consider [those options].. Try to relate to what you would do in the course of normal life. Knowing what you know, how likely would you be to report this? If you know that someone is beating the hell out of somebody else, yeah, report it. But if you're not sure, then ask."

Monday, May 21, 2007

‘Culture’ no excuse for black kids’ verbal abuse

Abuse often begins in the home where we are taught that it is OK to control others by verbal and emotional abuse. It is certainly true in some rap music, even some country western music! It is true in some religions, and very true in authoritarian families where men believe they are above their women--to make matters worse, when we comply to make it better--we train them that abuse works!

What do you think of the school officials excusing the verbal abuse saying that the teacher ought to learn to live with it? | 05/20/2007 | ‘Culture’ no excuse for black kids’ verbal abuse: "The case concerned Elizabeth Kandrac, who was routinely verbally abused by black students at Brentwood Middle School in North Charleston. Their slurs make Don Imus look like a church deacon.

Nevertheless, despite frequent complaints, school officials did nothing to intervene on Kandrac’s behalf, arguing the racially charged profanity was simply part of the students’ culture. If Kandrac couldn’t handle cursing, school officials told her, she was in the wrong school.

Kandrac finally filed a complaint with the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission and subsequently sued the Charleston County School District, the school’s principal and an associate superintendent. Last fall, jurors found that the school was a racially hostile environment to teach in and that the district retaliated against Kandrac for complaining about it."

Wednesday, May 16, 2007

Tami Brady- Regaining Control

Tami has written a book and it is worth taking a look at--regain control? Yes, let's learn to take back our lvies!

Tami Brady- Home Page: "Keep on Trying

Lie Low.

Keep my resolve High.

If I keep on trying.

I will make it there...eventually.

(Excerpt from From Lost to Found)"

Saturday, May 12, 2007

U.S. Presence in Iraq Promotes Muslim Feminism - FOX Fan

Something to thin about! - U.S. Presence in Iraq Promotes Muslim Feminism - FOX Fan: "But no culture can truly celebrate mothers, unless they first respect women. In the United States, women hold top positions in government, law, academia, business, and even the military. Democrats claim to be the favorite of America’s women. Indeed, polling data shows that upwards of 55 percent of American women vote Democratic in national elections. And Nancy Pelosi, the first woman Speaker of the House of Representatives, insists that Democrats care about 'women’s rights.' Unfortunately, if Ms. Pelosi and her Democrat Party allies have their way, 650 million women around the globe may well be abandoned to the most misogynistic abuse imaginable at the hands of radical Islamists."

Thursday, May 10, 2007

Verbal Abuse: It's About Control - Associated Content

Verbal Abuse: It's About Control - Associated Content: "Alec Baldwin's verbal abuse phone call brings up many things concerning proper parenting techniques. Just because your parents treated you in the same manner does not make it right to do the same to your kids."

Tuesday, May 8, 2007

You Are Not Crazy - Listen to What Verbal Abuse Really Sounds Like.

I have found a site I'm crazy about! Please go here and check it out--there's a bit of a learning curve--but Elieen has put up a "quiz" that is actually a tutorial. I would encourage all of you who have done our tutorial at to go through hers--Great job Elieen!!!

You Are Not Crazy - Listen to What Verbal Abuse Really Sounds Like.

Thursday, May 3, 2007

Jewish Survivors of Sexual Violence Speak Out: Verbal beatings hurt as much as sexual abuse

We already knew this but its nice that Harvard is coming on board!

Jewish Survivors of Sexual Violence Speak Out: Verbal beatings hurt as much as sexual abuse: "Sticks and stones may break my bones,
But names will never hurt me. …

That often repeated children’s rhyme is wrong, according to Harvard University psychiatrists. Scolding, swearing, yelling, blaming, insulting, threatening, ridiculing, demeaning, and criticizing can be as harmful as physical abuse, sexual abuse outside the home, or witnessing physical abuse at home, notes a report in the April issue of the Harvard Mental Health Letter.

The report suggests that, when verbal abuse is constant and severe, it creates a risk of post-traumatic stress disorder, the same type of psychological collapse experienced by combat troops in Iraq. The research on which the report is based points out that children who are the target of frequent verbal mistreatment exhibit higher rates of physical aggression, delinquency, and social problems than other children."