Thursday, March 31, 2005

Site reprints Article from You Are A Target

I want to thank this abuse site for finding our article of interest and reprinting it.

She has a lot of useful information, a little hard to download for dial-ups but worth waiting for.

Wednesday, March 30, 2005

Schiavo Abuse Allegations

I am the first person to say, "NO MORE ABUSE" and make people be responsible for actions they have taken--but I think we should use caution when going after people for something that may or may not have occurred over 15 years ago. People are jumping to conclusions and have "proof" that is heresy and slanted--there are two sides and I think we should temper ourselves and not jump to conclusions.

Listed below are links to weblogs that reference Prior Schiavo Abuse Allegations Covered Up By AG Crist: This is from "Blogs for Terri"--which is definitely attacking big time, anybody and every body who doesn't agree with their opinion. Sad.

Then there are those trying to defend from these horrific attacks. "State officials received 89 abuse complaints about Terri Schiavo in previous years and none were found to be credible, her husband's lawyer said Friday." This is from the Tampa Bay Times.

Is this a conflicting story or what?

Monday, March 21, 2005

I'm here for you

All of us keep a secret now and then, but at least one out of fifteen people is a chronic Secret Keeper. Are you someone whose secrets have power over you? Do they make you misbehave, become sick, or violate others? People plagued by unhealthy secret-keeping habits “steal hours” away from their public lives to act out their secret behaviors or passions—sometimes for decades—but rarely get found out.

Many are everyday folks. Your next-door neighbor. The shopper ahead of you in the supermarket line. The driver beside you on the freeway. Or maybe you—or someone you love.

Don't think I'm passing judgment. I speak from both my personal recovery experience based on my own 40-year history and my professional knowledge as a licensed chemical health counselor. Check out my book, Stolen Hours, written to help persons suffering from self-defeating behaviors such as alcohol/drug abuse, compulsive gambling, sexual addictions, and eating disorders.

Let me hear from you. I want to "be here" for you. John Prin

Saturday, March 19, 2005

South African Ads Aid Consciousness to Abuse Partners

"To call attention to its new Fall line, the Young Designers Emporium of South Africa has a new poster ad campaign in its shop windows. The "Brand Spanking New Fashions" posters feature models in their underwear sporting red marks on their thighs to imply they've been spanked with a paddle. The Law Society of South Africa has...." See the pictures and Read More on This is True

Until we stop seeing abusive acts such as sSpanking etc as the norm, or take it so lightly as to use it to promote the sale of underwear--how can we tell women that its NOT OK?

Thursday, March 17, 2005

When Silence is Not Golden

An abused woman and her six children suffered a living hell for 17 years at the hands of their husband/father. It wasn't until she decided to break away from his isolating tactics by venturing out of the home and speaking to church members that their nightmare finally ended.

Wednesday, March 16, 2005

Men are Targets too!

It's not just women that experience abuse in relationships. Here's a site that supports men in this. Domestic abuse Helpline for Men

Intimate partner violence (IPV) is not and can not simply be defined as a social problem of "men beating on women." Men, women and children in heterosexual and same sex abusive relationships are affected.

Tuesday, March 15, 2005

Good Abuse Discussion on Lifetime

I just found a great discussion on the Lifetime boards--if you need to "talk" it out with other people who have been abused, this looks like a great place! Life Discussion on Abuse

Saturday, March 12, 2005

Defining Abuse

From the Women's Health Network: Domestic violence is a term used to describe violence and abuse by family members or intimate partners such as a spouse, former spouse, boyfriend or girlfriend, ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend, or date. Other terms used for domestic violence include ... Good site to bookmark.

however, we know that all domestic violence is preceded by domestic abuse, often professionals don't clearly define the distinction. In Abuse situations, one is in a position to try and change things, in a violence situation, the rules have changed and we should use different approaches. So we added a section to distinguish battened two, look it over. Defining Abuse

Tuesday, March 8, 2005

Detachment: Neither Kind nor Unkind

There are some important principles we can learn from members of Al-Anon, not the least of which is detachment. Al-Anon men and women have learned to live with nasty vile drunks, as self-ish and self-serving as any abuser. In fact, many abusers also suffer from related disorders such as alcoholism, drug addiction, gambling, and sex addiction. So it is no surprise to find that we can learn a lot about living with an abuser from these spouses. They are considered blackbelts at dealing with abuse in their relationships.

Detachment is one way we can learn to respect and focus on ourselves and not the one using us as a target of their selfserving and critical ways. As Al-Anon literature says, "Detachment is neither kind nor unkind. It does not imply judgement or condemnation of the person or situation from which we are detaching. It is simply a means that allows us to separate ourselves from the adverse effects that another person's alcoholism can have upon our lives."

You can read the article in Buddy Ts site. And soon we will have a handout or article about it on theTarget site. Any contributions? Send a comment.

Saturday, March 5, 2005

Revenge best served

This is funny, Revenge is best served piping hot.... It's got a twist ending. We mention revenge a lot on the Target site. Revenge can be a good thng. A bad thing. and A funny thing.

Warning Labels on Marriage Licenses

I would love Washington to put warning lables on marriage Licenses--all states, in fact. It is not mandatory to "Love and Honor" an asshole. If we knew in our hearts that marriage is not a license for one person to badly treat another, we would not so eaisly accept abuse. We might stick up for ourselves and demand respect. Here's what's happening in Washington according to This is True by Randy Cassinghom.

"The State of Washington wants to put warning labels on newlyweds. Not literally, but the state Senate passed a bill requiring that marriage licenses carry the disclaimer that “The laws of this state affirm your right to enter into marriage and at the same time to live within the marriage free from violence and abuse.” To become law, the bill must also pass the state House of Representatives, but it has no sponsor there. (AP) ...That’s because in Washington, a law doesn’t apply to someone unless you pass a law saying it does."

Any thoughts?