Friday, July 20, 2007

Advocate's past helps her reach abuse victims

There are so many us that can be advocates becasue we have been there--we are each other's family and best freinds--some of us go professinal but most just reach out to the others behind us--Krystal is an inspiration to all of us--read her story:

Advocate's past helps her reach abuse victims: "Now enrolled in graduate school at Seattle University, she works as a legal advocate for mothers and children at a south King County domestic violence shelter. Her own experience is a powerful reminder about how children are affected by domestic violence, she says.

Counseling through Youth Eastside Services is an equally powerful reminder of how important another voice can be in helping a child cope with the emotional trauma of domestic violence, she says.

It's why she speaks out on behalf of the group whenever she gets the opportunity."

Monday, July 16, 2007

angerarchive: A Biblical View of verbal abuse

Finally, a man we can be proud of when it ocmes to religion and verbal abuse! What a great article! I recommend reading this for sure!

angerarchive: A Biblical View of verbal abuse: "t is not God's will for you (or your friend) to be in a verbally abusive relationship. Those angry and critical words will destroy your confidence and self-esteem. Being submissive in a marriage relationship (Ephesians 5:22) does not mean allowing yourself to be verbally beaten by your partner. 1 Peter 3:1 does teach that wives, by being submissive to their husbands, may win them to Christ by their behavior. But it does not teach that they must allow themselves to be verbally or physically abused.

Here are some key biblical principles. First, know that God loves you. The Bible teaches, 'The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.' (Psalm 34:18)

Second, deal with your feelings of guilt. You may be feeling that the problems in your marriage are your fault. 'If only I would do better, he wouldn't be so angry with me.' The Bible teaches in Psalm 51:6 that 'Surely You desire truth in the inner parts; You teach me wisdom in the inmost place.' Even though you may have feelings of guilt, you may not be the guilty party. I would recommend you read my article on the subject of false guilt.{5}"

Friday, July 13, 2007

Psychological Distress Are Recipe for Higher Unemployment

This is something we don't think about often--how verbal and domestic abuse affect the employability of the target of the abuse!

Newswise Social and Behavioral Sciences News | Domestic Violence, Psychological Distress Are Recipe for Higher Unemployment: "The study found that domestic violence had no effect on welfare use before or after the legislation was enacted. It also did not have an effect on employment before the new law was passed, but afterward the likelihood of being unemployed increased if there was a history of domestic violence during the transition to adulthood.

“When you are an adolescent mother and have violence in your relationship it sets you up for problems down the road,” said Taryn Lindhorst, lead author of the study and a UW assistant professor of social work. “Domestic violence has an accumulative effect over time so that abused women were less likely to work. After the change in welfare policy, women who were abused were less likely to be employed compared to teenage mothers who were not abused.”"