Tuesday, August 29, 2006

Fugitive polygamist arrested in Nevada

One giant leap for manKIND and a blow to manABUSE. We are not for or against any religion at YouAreATarget, but feel when religion is used as the abuse excuse, then we should speak out about it. God is not an abuser--but man can be. When we keep the secrets, people get hurt. Let's rejoyce that Warren was caught and, for the time being, stopped.

Fugitive polygamist arrested in Nevada: "Jeffs is wanted in Utah and Arizona on charges of arranging two marriages between underage girls and older men. The charges include two counts of rape as an accomplice in Utah, with each count punishable by up to life in prison.

He had been on the FBI's Ten Most Wanted list since May, with a $100,000 reward offered for information leading to his capture."

Saturday, August 19, 2006

Red Jumpsuit Apparatus Face Down lyrics

I like this song! At least someof our pop stars are spreading recovry messages and not abuse messages. Yeah!!!!

href="http://www.completealbumlyrics.com/lyric/130518/Red+Jumpsuit+Apparatus+-+Face+Down.html">Red Jumpsuit Apparatus Face Down lyrics: "Do you feel like a man when you push her around?
Do you feel better now as she falls to the ground?
Well, I'll tell you my friend, one day this world's going to end
As your lies crumble down, a new life she has found."

Thursday, August 17, 2006

Dying for a divorce

the neighbors kept her secret and she ended up dead--why do we feel we have to protect the assholes who treat us so badly????

Why are we so afraid to say, "You can not treat any owman this way and if you do i will report you to the authorities--police, social welfare, the minister or rabbi!"

Read about this woman who did not et our support.

M. had initially requested a divorce six years ago. She had had enough of the violence and the humiliation, but her husband refused to provide a get (religious divorce papers). During six years of proceedings at the rabbinical court, the judges declined to force the recalcitrant husband to divorce his suffering wife.

Meanwhile, M.’s husband continued to physically and verbally abuse her. Although the neighbors were aware of what went on in the couple’s home, no one dared to interfere. In the haredi neighborhood where the couple lived with their four children, the unspoken rules were sacred: Don’t involve the police, and don’t air your dirty laundry in public.

Sunday, August 13, 2006

Girl Scouts' Respect Everyone to Respect Yourself

Wow--who woul dhave thought this of the Girl Scouts? this is the essence of the miracle principle, after all... If you respect yourself first, take responsibility for yourself, people are not inclined to try and abuse you. Read about it here:

courant.com | More Conflict, Less Holding Hands: "Not only does she teach girls about it at East Hartford High School, where she is a junior, through the Girl Scouts' Respect Everyone to Respect Yourself program, but also one of her best friends is in an abusive relationship."

"Her boyfriend, he yells at her a lot. If he wants money or something and she doesn't give it to him, he gets mad," she said. "When she does it, he says he loves her."

Saturday, August 12, 2006

Protect our pets from the abuser too!

Finally--judges who will help us look after our pets!!! Great story, read below:

SignOnSanDiego.com > News > Nation -- U.S. laws consider pets in domestic violence cases: "Maine, Vermont and New York were the first states to enact laws allowing judges to include pets in protection orders, which require abusers to stay away from their victims. The New Jersey and Illinois legislatures are considering similar measures.

“The desire to protect a pet is often a deterrent for women or victims leaving a situation like this, because they're afraid if they do, their pets will be harmed,” said Sherry Lane of Caring Unlimited, a shelter in Sanford, Maine."

Abuse to violence increasing?

What are the reason that abuse could be increasing to violence inthe US? could it be that we are doing more to stop it and amking the abusers angrier? could it be that rather then let them seek help they will hurt them first? What's going on????

Fairfield Citizen - Severity of Acts of Domestic Violence Increasing: "While verbal abuse, slapping, pushing, punching and threatening with guns or knives are more common, Hazzard said, arson 'is one more tool' that domestic abusers use to exercise control. 'We should be alarmed by all of them.'

'My court advocates have been saying for over a year that the violence is escalating,' she said. The number of violence incidents has not necessarily increased, she said, but the severity of the domestic violence is increasing."

Friday, August 11, 2006

When they destroy your property

One of the things I used to hate was that Bob Bowman, my ex, used to go on rampages and destroy my things and our things. When I went to the police they told me that he was allowed to destroy antyhing he wanted on our property! I'm glad to see that some people are thinking about making laws that may cover us when our spouses (male or female) get out of control. Naturally everyone's premiums will go up to cover domestic abuse rampages..but then we are complicit in the abuse by keeping their secrets! Read about the new laws here:

Straus Newspapers - Pike County Courier / News: "The law aims to prevent abuse victims from being victimized a second time by insurance companies that refuse to pay their claims simply because their abuser intentionally causes the damage to property they may share.

Under the new law, an insurance company cannot refuse to pay losses specifically under an owner-occupied private residential or personal property, private passenger automobile policy or contract. An insurer may not refuse to pay losses to a victim of abuse because the loss is caused by an intentional act of an insured person, or for other limitations on coverage that the Insurance Commissioner determines unreasonably restrict a victim’s ability to recoup losses."

Wednesday, August 9, 2006

Teens can learn abuse from Wrestling

We wonder where they get it from?????

World Screen - Home: "He continued, “The level of vulgar language, verbal abuse and physical abuse modeled, with unrealistic outcomes, is astonishing. The bottom line is that adolescents are affected by what they are exposed to. This study shows that the incidence of date fighting and other violence increases when the exposure to violence increases. Wrestling doesn’t in itself cause violence, but when combined with overall socialization, violence on television can affect what is perceived as socially acceptable behavior.”"

Sunday, August 6, 2006

Women are stronger

Reports say abuse by women up: "'Domestic violence is one person exerting control over another,' he said. 'It is a behavior that is learned, a behavior that is practiced and until you intervene in that practice and teach alternate behavior, we're going to continue to have problems with domestic violence.'

More women will begin standing up for themselves, Searcy said.

'There was a time when women wouldn't fight back,' he said. 'Women are stronger, they got more educated and they realize they've got rights.'

Reports say abuse by women up

I don't care what the reports say--the reports are not taken in context--

Verbal and emotional abuse are relatively the same--but the physical can't be the same because a women simply cannot hurt a man like a man can a woman. read about it:

Reports say abuse by women up: "Most intimate partner violence assaults on men by women are relatively minor, according to the CDC. The assaults are mostly pushing, grabbing, shoving, slapping and hitting.

'We certainly can't condone slapping or hitting,' said Kate McCord, public awareness coordinator for the Virginia Sexual and Domestic Violence Action Alliance.

'But there's a wide continuum of violence and women, by far, bear the brunt of more brutal and long-lasting domestic violence,' she said.

Studies that show women physically abuse their intimate partners at the same rate as men often are criticized because they don't put the violence in context, according to the CDC.

'Physical violence by women results in less permanent markings,' said Juanita Graham, counseling services manager for the Avalon Outreach Office in Williamsburg. The office is part of the Avalon Center for Women and Children, which offers services for victims of family violence in Williamsburg, James City County and York County.

'It's a slap here or a slap there and a lot of threatening gestures,' Graham said. 'It's not quite fist-to-face kind of stuff.'"

Saturday, August 5, 2006

Shooting Puppies means abuse

Rememer--if they are mean to animals, they are probably an abuser! Check out this sad story from www.preventragedy.com/

“Survivor” winner Brian Heidik, 38, who won $1 million on the 2002 “Survivor: Thailand” show, jailed on charges of domestic violence and shooting a puppy with a bow and arrow. Heidik’s wife, Charmaine Heidik, 34, who said her husband had been “out with friends,” was awakened at 3:30 a.m. to the sound of the puppy yelping. She found Heidik about a foot away from the dog and saw him shoot the 12- to 16-week-old puppy, after which he commented, “I am tired of stupid dogs on my back porch.” Heidik is a former North Carolina State football player and part-time actor who has done stints on “Doogie Howser, M.D.” the daytime soap “Days of Our Lives” and several adult films including “Chick Street Fighter,” which also featured his wife Charmaine. The couple has a history of discord with indications of alcoholism on both sides, with Charmaine agreeing to undergo counseling in return for the dismissal of a charge that she punched Brian in the nose in late 2002. She says Brian has been “spiraling out of cntrol” since winning “Survivor,” adding, “He thinks he can do anything. He thinks he is invincible.” Indeed. By the way, the puppy survived.