Friday, December 15, 2006

Groups offer a helping hand: When holidays aren't the most wonderful time

Groups offer a helping hand: When holidays aren't the most wonderful time: "To help kids deal with the myriad of emotions that accompany abuse, be it financial, emotional, verbal, or physical, the YWCA’s Domestic Abuse Services program offers private and group counseling sessions, as well as special seasonal outings with trained volunteers from local high schools.

Throughout December, for example, teen volunteers have been taking groups of kids on ice-skating trips to rinks in surrounding towns.

“It’s easier for the child, especially in an outside activity, to go to a different town,” Ms. Adam said. “You don’t want to really draw attention to the fact the kids are with volunteers or are victims of domestic abuse.”

The YWCA has also offered sessions where kids and volunteers make gingerbread houses — something that helps children experience the joy of the holidays and open up to people they can trust.

“Two things happen: They’re able to be children and they’re able to team up with a positive role model,” Ms. Adams said.

She said this type of “play therapy” is a big part of the YWCA’s approach, since children are sometimes more comfortable talking about their feelings when they’re wearing a mask or playing with dolls.

Verbal Abuse fo sale

Well, you gotta laugh! "Verbal Abuse for Sale! Get Some While You Can!

Do you need more verbal abuse in your life?

If you need to feel some level of scorn, but don't want to have to ask someone to yell at you, why not try the Monty Python Abuse Keychain? This tiny battery-powered device has seven buttons, each with unique sound effects from the classic comedy sketches and films of Monty Python.

Highlights include such classics as:

'You don't frighten us, English pig dogs. Go and boil your bottoms, you sons of a silly person.'

'Your type really makes me puke, you vacuous, coffee-nosed, maloderous, pervert!'

'Death awaits you all! With nasty, big, pointy teeth.'

Stick and Stones....

Bedford Times-Mail Online News - Marriage and Family Alliance: Words can hurt just as much as sticks and stones: "Occasionally, wounds spur us on to be stronger, bolder, more caring, more compassionate, more loving because of the way we were hurt. Most often, verbal abuse has the opposite effect, resulting in low self esteem, anger, bitterness and lack of motivation. This deteriorates into self-inflicted wounding evidenced by indulging in alcohol, sexual exploitation, teen pregnancies, drug use, gambling, dropping out of high school, working menial jobs, poverty, domestic violence and crime.

Think of your own words, the ones that have not been encouraging. Is it too late to repair the damage? No. You can start with a heartfelt apology, asking for forgiveness. By making an apology and seeking forgiveness, we allow God to do what seems to be impossible: healing those inner wounds of our hearts."

Tuesday, December 12, 2006

Ochuk’s blog

Love this take-sort of a light hearted look at verbal abuse. We have to laugh about sometimes!

Ochuk’s blog: "So I see there are a lot of books out there on the so-called “five love languages.” Hmmm. Let’s see, teenagers, family, couples, apology, children, singles, men, and God. What? No spousal abuse? I guess I will have to write that one."

Tuesday, December 5, 2006


It's so hard to admit that the one we loved never loved us...with some abusers that is not true, but with the narcisist, it is. My Abuser, Bob Bowman, tried to love me--but he couldn't get past his own barriers--in the end he never did see me, ony the extensionof himself that he wanted me to be--what about your abuser? Is he targeting you becasue of culture, inexperience, religion, or is he targeting you because his own disorder is never allowed him to see that you are real---time for honesty, deep honestity and you may not like what you find. I didn't!!!!

Here is a geat blog to help ou find out:

SANCTUARY FOR THE ABUSED: "The ‘person’ you cared about, looked after and more than likely loved never existed! Their life is an act. They present themselves in a different guise depending on the situation. The most difficult part is to let go of the image you fell in love with all those years back. Unfortunately the image you feel in love with had been carefully cultivated to trap you! Taking off those 'rose tinted glasses' is a long, slow and painful process; remember you've worn them for a very long time. Do not be tempted to put them back on at all cost."

POPSUGAR-abused verbally

Tori to Write a Memoir | POPSUGAR: "Though Tori has not kept a diary over the years – the anecdotes are 'only in my head,' she says – she still has 'a million stories to tell.' Among the topics she plans to cover in the book are plastic surgery ('I basically want to lay it out in my terms'), past relationships ('I want to clear up that I was never in a physically abusive relationship, but verbal abuse is just as detrimental'), and her treatment in her father's last will and testament."