Monday, June 6, 2005

Does the Bible Abuse Women?

One of our supporters sent us a link to Holly's blog today. Here Holly quotes some passages from the work of: Dee L. R. Graham - New York University Press, 1994. The work is incredibly hateful to males, but it's difficult to dismiss because there are seeds of truth in many of the accusations. However, the research is dated and the new things we have learned about men, battering, and verbal abuse have not been explored in this monologue. does not advocate hating men or "getting" even with the abusive people in our lives. It advocates respecting ourselves and our choices and taking responsibility for those choices. People will only abuse you verbally to the extent that you allow it.

That being said, Dee Graham did bring up the Bible-
Do the Biblical texts of terror {...} function as verbal abuse (to women)?
An interesting article by Sue Bohlin: 5 Lies the Church Tells Women, attempts to answer this
A comprehensive study on domestic violence in the church in the mid 80's revealed that 26 percent of the pastors counseled an abused wife to keep submitting and trust that God would either stop the abuse or give her the strength to endure it. About a fourth of the pastors believed that abuse is the wife's fault because of her lack of submission! And a majority of the pastors said it is better for wives to endure violence against them than to seek a separation that might end in divorce.
It is often Paul who gets quoted to persuade people that the bible states women are inferior and to be submissive to your husband, but this site says that it is taken out of context:
Paul writes that "Wives should be subordinate to their husbands as to the Lord" (Ephesians 5:22). This may seem like a universal principle. But he says in the verse immediately preceding, "Be subordinate to one another out of reverence for Christ" (5:21). The same verb is used. One cannot validly make verse 22 into a universal principle without searching out how it relates to the entire passage.
And finally, I am not an atheist but they do have ways of getting us to think. At this site, Holy Bible Quotations, List a lot (200) quotes that abuse women and children!!!!! Check it out. Then, Did you think you know your Bible? I took this Bible Quiz and was shocked!!!! I got a pretty good score but never-the-less, a few of these facts were never even on my radar--I guarantee that you don't know as much as you think you do!


  1. Hi Shelly,
    Thanks for stopping by and I link everyone to this article. I do feel it is a very interesting debate. If you want me to remove the link let me know ok.
    take care

  2. Holly, Hi back--I'm not sure which article you link your readers to, but I also like debate--no matter what side of an issue I'm on, debate opens my mind and forces me to think. It's healthy. Holly, thank you so much for your fight and your work for us! I was in very simelar shoes as you (at age 20) and I was not nearly so brave. Thank you so many times. Many Blessings,

  3. Hi Shelly,
    Thank you for the comment.
    I do appreciate that it would be very difficult to do at any age! I am proud of my speaking out about rape! The Reader's Digest Piece "Holly's Fight for Justice, was done in April 1998. In the future updates will be done on my personal story. I do hope any sexual abuse/others forms of abuse go reported. The help for women/men is available in short and long term services. For all who request it, The law makers, and resources need to be working with assault victims more effectively, to truly make a difference in Canada! I linked the article Does the Bible Abuse Women?
    Take Care and be safe!
    Sincerely Holly Desimone

  4. I believe everthing I have ever heard or read about in the bible was demeaning to women!


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