If you love yourself more...

Anita Moorjani in Sedona - Why is this a secret?

I listened to this today--this women is a hero. My cousin in law, Michelle, had me listen to Anita--who was drying of multiple tumors--as she lay dying, she had a NDE and her world was transformed. One of the things she said directly relates to how we allow others to treat us--she said,

"If you love yourself more, others love you more. Other people respect you as much as you respect yourself. I don't understand why this is such a secret." Anita Moorjani 

The message I want to share with you is about respect--don't allow others to verbally abuse you--it hurts you and it hurts them.



The second message was for me. I don't need to be afraid of the upcoming surgery. I know I will not die before my time. I just needed to be reminded of it.



Anita Moorjani in Sedona - YouTube:



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Alleged Verbal Abuse at Halloween Horror Nights

I think this is one of those cases where the "actors" for Universal went too far. I applaud the execs for actually apologising and seeing that it will not occur again but this is not a policy of theirs--it was simply a mistake--we, as a society, are getting so much better at not making these kinds of mistakes Thanks Universal!

Execs Apologize for Alleged Verbal Abuse at Halloween Horror Nights | NBC Southern California: "The lawyer for two 13-year-old girls who were called "sluts," "hookers," or "whores" during Halloween Horror Nights earlier this month said Friday the issue has been resolved.
Kayla Beals and Roxy Fisher said last week that they were hurt by the slurs captured in cellphone video.
Girls Claim Universal "Horror Nights" Verbal Abuse
The female employee heard on the cellphone video appears to be part of Universal's "Purge the Anarchy" attraction, part of its special Halloween Horror Nights. Universal Studios and NBC4 are owned by Comcast."

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More Graduates of the Verbal Abuse Defense Workshop

We always like to share something that each participant has learned. It is by sharing with each other that we give and get support. We have two graduates this weeks, NG and Ruth.

Here are some pics form what they learned:

N GF wrote about Closure, "My issue has been with men in a male dominated,
authoritarian, work environment. I will never have conceptual closure with
them, because they never accepted responsibility. Therefore, I would like to
do something to get the entire system changed to where it will no longer
tolerate or protect their type behavior. That would include getting annual
training implemented on workforce abuse. I would also like to write a book."

Ruth gave us the three affirmations she is using now:
 I do not allow others to call me names.
 I refuse to be manipulated.
I am responsible when I accept abusive behavior.

Good job!

Glenda, You Are NOT a Booger

Dear Glenda (name changed),

So glad you are participating in this free online tutorial to earn a certificate in verbal abuse defense.  I can tell by your answers that you are really thinking about this situation. You wrote, "It makes sense on a logical level, but in practice I'm not convinced. Even if I don't engage, he will continue to yell at me and criticize me. It's easy enough to say that I don't care what he says, but words do hurt the heart."

Yes, words do hurt and we are not saying that you don't care. You are in this workshop, of course you care. We are not asking you to not care; we are asking you to stop allowing the behavior--put a stop to allowing someone to abuse you. As you continue in the workshop and follow with the workbook, you will gain skills in disengaging. Eventually you see that even if he "hurts" your feelings because he isn't loving you the way you picture love, that it isn't you, but him that has the problem. If a little kid runs up to a teacher sobbing about how the bully called him a name and cries, "He called me a booger!" The teacher's best response is, "Well, are you a booger?" and the kid hesitantly replies, "No," and the teach says, "well there you are." The child learns that if he does not accept the name calling, it loses its power. Granted your man  knows how to get a rise out of you (the words that hurt you most)--but learn to substitute the word "booger" for what he calls you--Glenda, are you a booger? No--do not give him that power to destroy you.

I can guarantee that in practice when you take your power back, it all changes. Some partners grow up and learn to value their counterparts--some leave. But in any case, you learn that you are not a booger.

Egypt deploys female anti-harassment police unit

I don't often think of Egypt when it ocmes to women's rights, but this is great! EAch tiny step aroudn the world where rights are protected is a good thing. thank you Egypt!

Egypt deploys female anti-harassment police unit « ASHARQ AL-AWSAT: "In a sight uncommon to the people of the country, members of the female police unit were deployed across the streets of Cairo and other Egyptian cities during the Eid festival. The initiative has attracted much public attention and has been widely welcomed by Egyptians weary of sexual harassment, a phenomenon that has grown rampant in the country in recent years. Asharq Al-Awsat tried to speak to one of the female police officers, but she politely declined since she cannot speak to the media without formal permission from her superiors."

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Is Verbal Abuse As Bad As Physical Abuse? (VIDEO)

Is Verbal Abuse As Bad As Physical Abuse? (VIDEO): "Is verbal abuse as bad as physical abuse? According to Brian Martin, founder of Children of Domestic Violence  and author of Invincible , the psychological effects are the same."



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