Maybe they don't call you names, or hit you, or put you down, but they are keeping a huge secret from you. They are liars and frauds and even if they don't overtly "abuse" their targets, their whole relationship with their target is deceptive. It is shattering to find out that everything you thought about your husband is based on lies--the life you were building, the intimacy, the sacredness of marriage. Read about the pain on Sandra's blog, Fighting Bigamy, and you will know they are hard-core abusers (she calls them emotional vampires!):
Not only do bigamists dish out emotional abuse to targets (victims), but they ruin people financially as well. Marriage is a legal contract, and bigamy is fraud. It is a felony in all but thirteen states. ..........Bigamists wreak havoc on the lives they touch, not only emotionally but also financially. And, in my opinion many bigamists are psychopaths (sociopath) con men who prey on trusting, kind women and men.On a related note: visits to our site have more than tripled since the Dr. Phil show. We want to post more stories and begin women on the road to realizing "You are not a victim, you are a target." At YouAreATarget.com we believe that you can learn NOT to be anyone's target again. Yes, we want each of us to tell and make the abusers responsible for their own behavior, but more importantly we want YOU to learn how not to let it happen in the first place. Get the tutorial--start practicing empowerment behavior!