Friday, April 8, 2005

Great Article On Emotional Abuse

Pamela Brewer MSW, Ph.D., LCSW-C has written a great article on emotional abuse that anyone interested in this subject ought to take a look at.

Just what is emotional abuse? It is the ongoing emotional environment created by your abuser for the purposes of control. It's sort of like a search and destroy mission. In this war, the abuser experiences your self-esteem, your individual self, your energy, your ability to feel and question and want and need and be.... as the enemy.


  1. yup, my estranged became so determined to destroy me he bought the book "THE ART OF WAR." Told me it was for work (he's a manager) and then started to use the techniques on me. I am disabled now and I realize his "techniques" were one of the reasons why.

  2. It's true! I found that Bob, my ex was always tryng to "win" and it was like a war zone in my house. My home was not a safe place because I never knew when he was going to attack. I used to tell him all the time, "I am not the enemy." I could never understand why we couldn't just sit down and and talk things out. It was impossible because everything I said he took as a challenge to his authority. He even asked me one time, "Why do you challenge my authority all the time?" I was flabbergasted because all I was doing was talking and trying to work things out.


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