Here are a few highlights from our participants:
Jamie T wrote this in what she wanted for closure, "I would like a divorce. His manipulation and controlling ways have such a negative effect on my ability to better myself and thus my family. As well as our children, they deserve a Father who is willing to do what is right for their betterment. I enable him to not change, we are no good for each other."
Dr. Marshall and I try to prevent couples breaking up if we can. Divorce is rough and if one hasn't dealt with the issues in this marriage--they often bring the same issues into the next. Jamie, we wish you well.
I loved what our guy graduate, SG, shared about detachment, "Detachment means separating myself from my wife's emotions, actions and behaviour. I am not responsible for any of those things, and they cannot affect my life more than I allow them to. Since I understand now that I am being abused, my priority is to ensure that I do not allow my wife to affect things important to me, while letting go of the idea that I can control or influence her into caring for me. Emotionally, financially, and otherwise, my life is my own and her life is her own. I will not attempt to harm her, I will not break my commitments, but I will also not try to make her behavior 'better', and I will not allow her to affect me."
KM is the final participant who earned a certificate this month. She was brief in her lessons, but right to the point. This is what she wrote about responding to her partner's abuse, "Do not respond. Take back your power. Yes, it makes sense. I have let him abuse me by not stopping it."