Why? Becasue if you don't learn about your part in the abuse, you are doomed to get into another abusive relationship. Honest. Once you learn about the Miracle principle thorugh the book, Respect Me Rules.
you can extract yourself emotionally and demand the respect you deserve. However--we need to consider all views. Read the article below.
The Michigan Journal | Verbal Abuse and Relationships: "Verbal abusers hate seeing others happy, especially their significant other. It kills them inside to see them succeeding, or doing anything that makes them happy. They may crush their hopes and dreams by repeating negative things to have their victim questioning every single thing they are doing. They want to make sure that they feel above and better than their victim and create all kinds of different obstacles to keep them from becoming better. When asked why they say and do what they do, the answer may be because they care and want the best for them."
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