"I’ve written before that abuse is a cycle. Abuse does not happen in a vacuum, meaning that an abuser cannot be an abuser if there is no one to abuse. A victim cannot be a victim if there is no one to transfer authority to.Shel also has a free download of a worksheet regarding how you allow abuse and why that abuser does it--work checking out her site.
I did just that. I transferred my authority over ME to him a very long time ago. I gave me away. I chose to be the harmony instead of the melody. I chose to give up parts of myself in order to … to what?"
Friday, January 21, 2011
I love this women!!!! Go read her blog. She GETS it! Kelly understands that to be abused you have to allow it.
My Verbally Abusive Marriage: