Wednesday, August 29, 2007

Victim Talks About Surviving Domestic Abuse

ABC 13 - Victim Talks About Surviving Domestic Abuse: "Eley - 'I'll hug them, and listen to them.' And, in the end, she believes her story will help save them. As long as they find the strength to save themselves. Eley - 'I see hope. But, I think they need to see determination.' The Domestic Violence Prevention Center, where Betty Eley works, has a number of warning signs and methods for fighting back. Click here for a link to their website."

Thursday, August 9, 2007

Organization gives Texas teenagers red flags on relationship violence

Yeah for texas. the sooner we begin teaching our young people that they need to respect themselves and not allow anyone tomistreat them--as son as we teach them it is NOT ok to abuse a partner, we will help stem this abusive tide--


Killeen Daily Herald - Organization gives Texas teenagers red flags on relationship violence: "Red Flags, formed by the Texas Council on Family Violence, was organized to inform teens and young adults about how to spot and deal with dating violence.

Dating violence isn't always about physical abuse; it's a pattern of abusive behaviors – some physical, some emotional – that one person uses to control another in a relationship.

A recent survey by the Texas Council on Family Violence polled more than 900 young Texans on their attitudes toward and experiences with dating violence behaviors, ranging from controlling actions to physical harm.

Fifty percent of the respondents reported personally experiencing dating violence, whether as the target or abuser. Two out of five teens and young adults said they've experienced verbal abuse. One out of four reported physical violence, and one out of five reported sexual violence."

Organization gives Texas teenagers red flags on relationship violence

Good for texas! If we begin training young people to watch out for these things, we will have a lot fewer abusers and fewer partners who will allow abusive partners in their lives.

illeen Daily Herald - Organization gives Texas teenagers red flags on relationship violence: "Red Flags, formed by the Texas Council on Family Violence, was organized to inform teens and young adults about how to spot and deal with dating violence.

Dating violence isn't always about physical abuse; it's a pattern of abusive behaviors – some physical, some emotional – that one person uses to control another in a relationship.

A recent survey by the Texas Council on Family Violence polled more than 900 young Texans on their attitudes toward and experiences with dating violence behaviors, ranging from controlling actions to physical harm.

Fifty percent of the respondents reported personally experiencing dating violence, whether as the target or abuser. Two out of five teens and young adults said they've experienced verbal abuse. One out of four reported physical violence, and one out of five reported sexual violence."

Monday, August 6, 2007

Exposing Online Predators & Cyberpaths: CALL FOR INFORMATION: NATHAN ERNEST BURL THOMAS, JR. - ON THE RUN!

The more we tell the more women we will be able to help--when you keep the secrets, they keep going. Don't keep it secret--the abuse in your life should be out in the open, for you, for them, for us!

Exposing Online Predators & Cyberpaths: CALL FOR INFORMATION: NATHAN ERNEST BURL THOMAS, JR. - ON THE RUN!: "Nathan Ernest Burl Thomas Jr, aka Nathan E B Thomas Jr., date of birth 03-DEC-1952, born in Arkansas, uses the online dating sites, pen pal sites, etc. to find vulnerable women!

His MODUS OPERANDI is always the same:
He tells his targets he is a widower from a Puerto Rican woman called Felicia, who passed away of cancer some years ago - (we sell fake Kleenex for all those who have cried hearing this fake story) – and he will fake a strong sadness for this imaginary woman.

After some time, probably after meeting the target, he loves bomb his “woman target” and starts a torrid relationship. He flies to the “victim's” country or pays for his victims to fly to meet him as well. It’s a perfect romance copied from the best love story out there.

He acts like a gentleman, fakes ethics & religiousness, helps old ladies on the street, loves children, gives money to beggars!!!

You will NEVER see his 'house' - he will always stay in a hotel with you."

relate this to the Micheal vick story below!

THE ABUSIVE MARRIAGE: "It's as if society expects abused women to think and act as mentally healthy, stable human beings, while scoffing at what could possibly be wrong with such a person who would stay in an abusive relationship. She's already fully aware that no one understands her and that she is judged and ostracized. Yet, she is expected to courageously and confidently embark upon a whole new life for herself in a society which looks down their noses at her, whispers and laughs behind her back, and avoids contact with her as if she has the plague.

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In a society so technically advanced, educated and so concerned with Constitutional Rights and 'political-correctness', we should be ashamed that our women and children are still treated just a little less than human. Oh, we hear plenty talk about stopping child abuse, but when an instance is reported, rarely is anything done, and nothing is heard, until the child is dead. And women who find themselves in abusive relationships are always blamed by the abuser, and then blamed by society for not 'just leaving', judged by those who have no idea what they would do in the same situation. It's so easy to say I would do this or I would do that, but... until the thing has actually happened to you, you do not know what you would do."

We treat dogs better than women

GREAT article and bravo to Mike Bianchi for this fabulous sports commentary!


Ignoring domestic abuse is the shame of the sports world -- OrlandoSentinel.com: "If only Michael Vick had been arrested for abusing women instead of dogs.

He'd still be on the football field today.

He'd still have the love and adoration of his fans.

And, yes, he'd still have his Nike deal.

Such is the shame of professional sports.

Dogs are treated with more respect than women.

'It makes me angry that the sports world gets outraged when an athlete tortures a dog, but nobody says a word when an athlete abuses his wife or girlfriend,' says Carol Wick, who operates Harbor House, a local shelter for battered women and children. 'Not that we shouldn't be outraged by animal abuse, but shouldn't we be just as outraged with spousal abuse?'

Actually, shouldn't we be more outraged?"

Representative Mark Olson and 'Battered Husband Syndrome'

Boy, are their hot stories today--my blogging fingers are smok'in. Here is a story about the battered male! Well, it's true. Many men suffer at the verbal abuse of their wives and girlfriends (and battering). This is a story worth reading about Mark Olson...


MND: News and Commentary Since 2001 » Representative Mark Olson and 'Battered Husband Syndrome': "Representative Mark Olson (R-MN) was arrested in November of last year on domestic assault charges. According to the news reports, the charges stemmed from an argument with his wife of three or four years, Heidi. Heidi has five children from a previous marriage, and the argument was over one of her children, who is described as autistic.

What's most interesting about this case is that Mr. Olson's attorney decided (from what the newspapers report) to use a defense of 'battered husband's syndrome' at his trial. You rarely hear about this defense being used by a man, though often it is used as a defense for women who are charged with a felony or murder of their intimate partners.

Rep. Olson was charged with two misdemeanor domestic assault charges, one of intending to cause her to fear bodily harm and a more serious charge of harming or intending to harm her. He testified that Heidi was the one that instigated the abuse that led to his arrest. He also testified tearfully that she had been verbally threatening and at times physically abusive throughout their marriage.

Read more about the abuse he says he endured here.

The jury found Rep. Olson guilty of the lesser charge and acquitted him of the more serious charge. After the verdict, Rep."

JewBu Quest: From Abuse to Happiness: More Verbal Abuse

Here is a blog from a woman with the same name as my daughter "Karma". She is just now beginning to wake up to what abuse is and we want to help her learn how to put a stop to it NOW. Drop by her blog and send some encouraging words.


JewBu Quest: From Abuse to Happiness: More Verbal Abuse: "More Verbal Abuse

Augh! I don't know if I would have realized what was going on without some of your comments. But, Jerry has kept up with these negative remarks about me, making fun of me, responding negatively whenever I try to communicate with him, ignoring me when I feel emotional at all about my Mom....

So, I sent him the below email:"

blog.myspace.com/angelstar8083

thank you Angel star for making this avaialb.e I think it's the first time that MySpace has been blogged by us.


blog.myspace.com/angelstar8083: "Nobody has the right to abuse anyone else, ever.

Many women [or men] think or believe, that if they are not being physically harmed by their partner, then they are not being abused. This is far from true. If you are in a relationship which is draining something from you... you might not have recognized that your partner is eroding your self-esteem and happiness through verbal, mental, emotional and other forms of abuse.

The following is a list of ways to tell if someone is abusing you without physically touching you:"

Saturday, August 4, 2007

The Healing Art of Communication - by Ayal Hurst

A great site with lots of good info sent to us from one of our readers, Andrea G.

thanks, Andrea, this will help a lot of our "students" for the tutorial.

The Healing Art of Communication - by Ayal Hurst: "Violence comes from the belief that other people cause our pain and therefore deserve punishment. The cause of our feelings is located in our own thinking. For instance, if a person says to another: 'You doubt me all the time,' what is that person really thinking and feeling? What they are really feeling is the following: 'I am feeling insecure. I don't know if I trust my own competence and I am needing to know that I do things well.'

What messages are conveyed to the other person in the statement 'You doubt me all the time!'? Projection, guilt, shame.... you're wrong for doing this, it's your fault I feel this way, etc. In order to be able to relate to another and not blame them for what goes on for us, we have to shine the light of consciousness on our own feelings and discover what we are really feeling and needing."