Luci H wrote about Detachment, "You do not judge, retaliate or hurt. You simply state this is what you can do to me and this is what you cannot."
Lisa B explained why we are actually hurting another by giving them everything they want and by allowing them to be mean to us, "by giving a person everything they want is hurting them because they need to learn that not everything is handed to you."
Jilly D answered "How should you respond to verbal abuse?." Do not engage.
Do not react.
Do not feed the desire to control.
Yes - if I am not feeding his desire to control and to create a reaction, then his "addiction" is not fed and he will go somewhere else to get his "fix"
Susanne D talked about detachment, "Detachment is separating oneself from adverse, unpleasant or undesirable effects of abuse from someone in order to take good care of yourself."
and my all time favorite came from Donna K who said taht to improve her relationship she "don't be kissing his butt!!" Way to go Donna.
Congrats to our participants!