Dating disaster - NeXt - The Buffalo News

Dating disaster - NeXt - The Buffalo News: "You could be seeing it every day in your brother's, your sister's or your best friend'srelationship. It could even be happening to you. Abuse in teen relationships is more prevalent than you might think; according to A-Troubled-Teen.com, about 1 in every 10 teenage relationships is physically abusive, and 1 out of every 4 involves mental or emotional mistreatment.

So why can dating abuse be so difficult to spot? The main reason is that a lot of people aren't exactly sure what to look for. In addition, an abusive partner wants to convince everyone involved in the relationship that what's going on is OK. The truth is, if a person is being broken down physically, mentally or emotionally, something needs to be done."

We really need to reach our kids before they get to this stage---

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Teaching little girls the difference between love and abuse

I found this blog today, and I really REALLY appreciate the sentiment behind it.

You didn't thank me for punching you in the face

I will warn readers - the author feels strongly and uses strong words. It's worth the read, and she suggests editing out the "foul language" before distributing it to children.

"I am sure every girl can recall, at least once as a child, coming home and telling their parents, uncle, aunt or grandparent about a boy who had pulled her hair, hit her, teased her, pushed her or committed some other playground crime. I will bet money that most of those, if not all, will tell you that they were told “Oh, that just means he likes you”.

When was it decided that we should start teaching our daughters to accept being belittled, disrespected and abused as endearing treatment? And we have the audacity to wonder why women stay in abusive relationships? How did society become so oblivious to the fact that we were conditioning our daughters to endure abusive treatment, much less view it as romantic overtures?"

How to Verbally Confront Someone Using Verbal Abuse: 5 steps - wikiHow

I think this is a joke but am not sure--this article explains how to verbally abuse someone--not ocnfront them--what are your thoughts? Joke or not? (hint, read the entire article by clicking on the link before you respond--its shrot)

How to Verbally Confront Someone Using Verbal Abuse: 5 steps - wikiHow: "Verbal Abuse is a weapon that most people in the world use as a means to win a dispute and usually precede a more serious physical confrontation which could have legal consequences. Verbal Abuse is legal in most places so long it is not a repeated event and is not recorded or published as it may be considered "slander"."

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Killing me softly with his words

I love t his campaign! what a perfect title. Maybe we should think of observing this in our communities?

Verbal abuse “can deaden someone from the inside out” · TheJournal.ie: "VICTIMS OF VERBAL abuse can suffer from mental and physical health issues – but it can be hard for them to name what they are experiencing, say Sonas Housing and Meath Women’s Refuge, who have launched their new campaign, Killing Me Softly With His Words, this week.
The campaign aims to raise awareness of the affects of verbal abuse such as name-calling, insults, humiliation, intimidation, threatening comments and mind-games."

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Verbal abuse on tape

You have GOT to hear this woman's abuse tape!

Verbal abuse on tape: "I put together this video to document what verbal abuse sounds like and what it feels like to me:

Domestic abuse caught on tape - YouTube

Despite what you hear, he is actually very involved as a father, but he's also very controlling of our kids' opinion about me. I'm afraid of what might happen if there is a custody battle.

Everyone else thinks he is the most wonderful guy in the world--he never acts like this outside our home. Because of this, for many years I thought I must be to blame, but I've finally decided there is no excuse for treating someone like this. The only problem is I have no good options at this point."

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Music Video: Warrior in Me (Lori Crandall)

A friend just sent me the link to this woman's website and music.
What an amazing example of what it is like to learn how to take care of myself.
There's a warrior in me!



VS 1.
There are days that I remember your eyes, filled with rage as you looked at me. I thought your anger was somehow my fault, and then…I murdered myself. I thought I must have been nothing, but those days are gone, I let go of you and given you back your thorns, and now I finally see, that there’s a Warrior in me!

CHORUS
Everything I am
Everything I know
Everything I see
Everything I’ll be is Inside of Me, Yeah…

Every time I cry
Every time I scream
Every time I love
Every time I sing…Its inside, yeah it’s inside inside of me.

Yeah, you gave me your worst, and I fought with my best, and the Warrior, yeah this Warrior she lives on in me!

VS 2
Yes, you may have broke me. But all you showed me, was just how strong I am the warrior that is me. Yes, you may have cut me, but all that you taught me to see, is that my power to thrive and my will and my drive, and my heart as my guide, will live on eternally. Free to fly, with this Warrior in me!

CHORUS

Now I never thought I could find myself, I could free myself! I always thought I’d be in this pain again and again, locked in myself, chained to these walls, never again to feel any love at all!! But the Warrior, she freed me!

FINAL CHORUS
Everything I am
Everything I know
Everything I see
Everything I’ll be is Inside of Me, Yeah…

Every time I cry
Every time I scream
Every time I love
Every time I sing…It’s inside, yeah it’s inside inside of me.

No, I never thought I could find myself, I would free myself, I fought you on this battleground, Now I was lost now I’m found, Yeah, you gave me your worst, and I fought with my best, and the Warrior, yeah this Warrior, she lives on in me! Yes, this warrior…is ME!

Copyright Lori Crandall/2005