Monday, January 18, 2016

Quote from St Maarten about letting people hurt us

Wonder where we heard this before? Wehn people drain you-abuse you, misuse you, it you who let them in. It's sad that we have to build walls from the ones we love, but once we start letting them hurt us (even unknowingly teach them to hurt us) we must learn not to let their mean selves in to hurt us further.

Quotes About Blaming Others (30 quotes): "“There are only two kinds of people who can drain your energy: those you love, and those you fear. In both instances it is you who let them in. They did not force their way into your aura, or pry their way into your reality experience.”
― Anthon St. Maarten"

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Tuesday, January 12, 2016

Three New Graduates in the New Year

Three more graduates! Each are beginning a new awareness for the New Year. In this class we had two women and a guy and we give them all the thumbs up.
Here are a few words from each excerpted fromt their lessons.

First was Janet. She picked three pretty good afirmations to help in her new thought patterns:
    I don't have to answer questions asked of me
    I can respond calmly
    I'm not responsible for fixing other peoples problems.

When she received her certificate she wrote,
Thanks I have been working with this stuff for a while, always looking for a little bit more.  Ever improving. Have taken on board 'bitterness' big time. Major taskŠ. Gather the courage to create the life I wantŠ.. Is my biggest obstacle still, so GREAT BIG THANK YOU!
Our next Graduate was Ronald. He is saddened by his partner's lack of committment and answered this as an example of his idea closure:
We part ways in good terms. No hard feelings. Forgive and forget, to move on. We can only make ourselves happy. Closure with in, for me means you've tried every possible way to make things right. You are left ultimately to make the decision for yourself. You yourself closes and opens yourself to everything.
This is my first experience ever, in a relationship, Im saddened that the reality is that {my partner}, has been abusive all these years, he has been ignoring me for a month now...I feel like I'm the only one at fault.
Our final graduate is Mary. her answer to  "How should you respond to verbal abuse?." was brief but insightful:
Yes, it makes sense that it takes two participants. If you do not accept the behavior, then how will the behavior continue.
Congradualtions in starting the New Year with new ideas of self-respect! 

Friday, January 8, 2016

Teenagers increasingly assaulting, abusing their parents

I've often thought that the trend toward indulging kids with everything and fulfilling their every whim would simply not make them into nice people. I don't know if it is what causes them to be hellions, but I do know that when there are no consequences for bad behavior, you get more bad behavior. I hope this has not happened in your family. Read the article below and ask yourself if this is a problem in your home?

Teenagers increasingly assaulting, abusing their parents: "Teenagers are increasingly emotionally and physically abusing their parents, lashing out when they don't get their way or are denied something.

Family psychologists and researchers have identified an increase in the number of cases of parents being abused by their kids, which they attribute to the sense of entitlement with which children grow up today."

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