Wednesday, November 11, 2015

How to Handle Being Bullied as an Adult

I love this article on adult bullies (which is after all what verbal and emotional abuse it--bullying at its worse) I suggest reading the whole arcle--but my favoirt favoirte part is this about stop playing victim--that is what Respect Me Rules is all about.

How to Handle Being Bullied as an Adult: "Stop Playing the Victim

This tactic is an oldie, but a goodie: stop playing their victim. The bully singled you out because they see you as weak and vulnerable. As Gil explains, they look for someone with some kind of trait that they can exploit:

Bullies might go after the “short” girl, “fat” guy, “ugly” kid, etc. because they feel they can target the person in the area where they are the most insecure. Some bullies will target someone who they perceive to be an “alpha” (e.g. the popular girl, the good-looking guy, etc.) to boost their ego. This strategy serves a social purpose in that the bully is trying to establish power so nobody else will try to push them around.
Bullies are looking for people that are willing to submit to their power play. If you make it look like the bully’s actions and words don’t affect you, it ruins it for them. Try to keep your ego in check and let it all roll over you. For example:"

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